Bereavement leave is typically granted for immediate family; although, it can vary by employer. Recently, having dealt with this on more than one occasion, an issue has been brought to my attention. What gives the employer the right to tell you that you cannot take time off to attend funeral services?
First, I get the obvious answer… because companies are allowed to set such policies as seen fit. I realize there are also people in this world that try to take advantage of any situation; however, companies should not have the right to determine if the death of an individual is of enough importance that you are allowed to take off work.
A marriage certificate or the blood in your veins does not automatically invalidate everyone else’s importance. There are friendships built and families created and those people can be just as important. Maybe you have a friend or loved one that needs you to be there because you are their rock. The end of this life is death and for some people, they need that last goodbye. Do not punish someone for having to deal with the death of someone they love. It is not their fault if they have to attend three funerals in a year or two back to back. Furthermore, the family of your boyfriend can also be your family even if “you’re not officially family.”
This world needs a little more compassion.
A friend of mine has recently rediscovered her tarot cards and is trying to understand them more and such. She does a daily reading for herself and keeps a little journal with her “findings.” Apparently, ‘yes’ and ‘no’ questions are much harder to do / understand. While she was on the phone with me the other day, she did a reading for me, without my knowledge. She asked [the cards] if my significant other and I will get married. The card she received was The Empress. Her take on the answer to her question was a “yes, this is a great time.” She then asked if he and I would grow old together. The card she received was Death, which she took for a solid no.
That’s obviously not something you want to hear when you’re pursuing a forever relationship with someone. I have mixed feelings about readings in all forms. I’m not sure if I believe, but there’s part of me that says, “what if?” My thoughts on it are this: if you could know the exact time and place of your death, would you want to know? If you could have the name of the person that you’re supposed to marry, would you want the name? My answers are no. Life is about the journey, not the end result. It all ends the same. Our physical bodies die. If you knew that the man you were supposed to marry was named Ethan, would you have experienced those life changing moments or seen the Grand Canyon with Tom? No, because you’ll want to get straight to your happily ever after with this Ethan.
You’re probably thinking, “so, what’s the problem? Clearly, this isn’t something you put much stock in.” True and false. I stay away from it because I don’t really understand it AND it’s just not something that I want to know. It seems to cloud an already overcast life. My friend meant no harm, of course. It’s something that she’s learning and interested in. So, she’s sharing that with me. I can’t help but be affected by it though. Should I talk to my significant other? If I do talk to him, am I just implanting the ideas of ending a relationship with me? Am I being crazy? Now, I have this little voice in my head going, “it’s not going to work out. You’re wasting both of your time. This, too, will end in heartbreak.” Part of me says, ignore it. You make your own life, but the other part of me says, “you’re ignoring the signs we’re trying to give you.”
If you’ve made it this far, I’m curious what your unbiased opinion is about tarot cards, readings, and all the different meanings. Should I take a chill pill and forget about all this or delve into some other option?